“What a fail!”
My daughter says that all the time when she wants to express disgust about someone or their actions. She will watch a soccer game on TV and when a striker misses a goal she’ll say, “What a fail!” When I drop something in the kitchen she’ll say, “What a fail!” Frankly I don’t get it, but I figure it’s better than her saying, “That sucks!”
Over the past few months, the word “fail” has taken on new-found popularity, yet “Fail” is an expression I refuse to use. Not because I’m like Ed Harris in Apollo 13, confidently declaring “Failure is not an option!” But because I hate when people my age try to use popular teenage expressions. It brings back bad childhood memories of a musical-variety special I once saw in which Lucille Ball kept using the word “hep”.
On Twitter, there is a hash tag #fail on which people tweet things they have failed at over the course of the day. So it’s common to see tweets like, “Just drove two hours in traffic to meeting and found out it’s tomorrow not today #fail.” Or “put lasagna in oven two hours ago but never turned oven on #fail.” There is a website called failblog.org that posts pictures and videos of people failing at various endeavors from bicycle jumps to inadvertent x-rated advertisements.
However, I am left to wonder why do we have this fascination with failure? Why do we enjoy seeing other people fail and even find humor in it?
I think it’s for the same reason we enjoy horror movies and roller coasters. We are fascinated by that which frightens us, and for many of us, failure one of our biggest fears and hence our fascination with it. In our life’s journey of getting to who God wants us to be, our fears are like roadblocks. Fear of failure is one of the first we run into and it stops us in our tracks.
Sometimes this fear blocks our biggest dreams; starting a new business, moving to a new town, beginning a new ministry here at Vision. Sometimes this fear blocks our more intimate initiatives; making new friends, learning a new skill, or just showing up at a Vision event. In our mind we create an expectation that we will try this new experience, most likely feeling ill-equipped, fumble our way through it and fail. In turn, that will bring out our critics, both external and internal. Therefore, we tell ourselves, it is just safer to never begin in the first place. We protect ourselves with the dream-smothering assurance that if we never get our hopes up and try, we will never risk disappointment.